Recently
I’ve received an e-mail from one of my readers, asking me about the risks of
watching porn. He wants to stay anonymous so we will call him John. So recently
John has started having a bad sex life.
Either he could not get it up or he
couldn’t keep it up. Our reader is only 20 and it’s not normal for a young
person to have such problems. He also says he likes to watch porn a lot and to
please himself while doing so. There are almost no problems during the porn,
but when he is with a girl, the plane doesn’t want to take off and leaves him hanging…
John is very concerned about what is going on and is asking for help.
I want to thank him first for sending me an e-mail
asking for help. And fortunately I have a solution and an explanation! So read
on.
Most of
the XXX video viewers are men and that’s normal, because they depend more on
visuals than touch and feeling, and women are the exact opposite. So what
exactly happens when you watch too much porn? First things first you need to know the exact
problems it can lead to, so here’s a list:
1. Erectile dysfunction (you can’t get it up, or you
can’t keep it up)
2. Softness of your instrument;
3. Depression and dissatisfaction due to non real physical
experience;
4. Forcing you to want more and more the next time;
5. Developing strange fetishes you never had before;
6. Makes you use only visual imagery to get hard and
going;
7. Plants an idea that all girls should be model like
and looking perfect;
8. Makes your real sex experience less exciting and
productive.
Why do
all these things happen? Am I already broken, can I be fixed? Whoa! Don’t
worry, everything can be fixed and it’s never too late. All these dysfunctions
happen because porn forces you only to use visual imagery. You don’t feel the
touch of the girl/guy in the video, and the whispers in your ear, so you rely
only on what you see. Real sex is nothing like that, it includes all our senses
– how we feel, how the skin of our partner feels like, how they smell, what
they taste like. Porn numbs down all your other feelings and you feel like you
don’t need them at all. It reprograms your mind entirely. Leaving you alone in
front of a monitor, feeling like you don’t need anybody and everything happens
through visuals and not real interactions.
You must
understand that when you get to the real deal, a girl might want to do it in
the dark with you. So all your visuals will be cut off, and you will rely only
on feelings and touch. That’s when your problems will start showing up – having
an erection fail or softness and you could not penetrate your partner ! Also if
you are lucky and do it during the day when it’s light there can be problems
too. When your partner is touching you, it might not turn you on. People
usually touch more lightly and with passion the other person, on the other hand
when men do their work alone, they tend to hold their instrument tighter so it
numbs down a lot. This results with no erection when a lighter grip is applied
on them. Long story short… porn fucks you up ! It reprograms your brain into
using and relying only on visuals instead of visuals + touch and feel.
Stay tuned for Part II where I will tell you how to
deal with all these problems in a short period of time, recovering fully up to
100%.
