So what can we do about those friends ? Should we ditch them, or try to
change them, or maybe talk to them with hope that they will understand us
better? Read on!
Tip# 1 Think about
your friend. Ask yourself some
questions like:
- Do we have the same interests?
- Does he/she likes it when I’m down?
- Do we have the same beliefs?
- Does he/she really care about me? (think of the last times you were feeling under the weather, and if you did get any help from that person)
- Does he/she really care about me? (think of the last times you were feeling under the weather, and if you did get any help from that person)
- Why exactly are we friends? (is it about support or we
known each other from friends and just stuck together)
- Does he/she make me feel bad or judges me all the
time?
- Does he/she puts me down in order to get
himself/herself up ?
Tip# 2 Next time you need support contact that person.
So next time you need a little or a lot of help contact that person and let
them know, you need them. If they respond it’s great, but if they don’t wait a
little and think it through. Because they may have something over their heads
too and may not have time for anybody else at all. Although a good friend would
always find time for you.
Tip# 3 Who contacts you every day?
It’s okay to write to your buddy first most of the time, but see if they
would contact you if you stop doing it. A good friend would feel the lack of
your presence and will try to see if you are doing well.
Tip# 4 Do they really care ?
Think about every time you write to your friend or when you talk in person.
Do they listen to you too, or just wait for you to finish so they can start talking
their trash and how miserable is everything. Reinforcing your feeling of being
not worthy of living, or that you can’t do anything to improve your life.
Tip# 5 Keeping you down or moving forward with
you. - this is the most important Tip of them all.
You are doing something for yourself. You are passionate about art or
photography or writing or whatever, wanting to progress in your job, do
something that matters! Does this person support you or just keeps you down
with him/her, where never does anything to progress – in his career or
mentally. Tells you not to attempt this and that because it won’t work out? The
truth is that these type of friends are okay to be a failure and want you to be
like them. Once you start being successful they start abandoning you or just
trying to hold you back in the pit of despair.
What should you do?
Think about all the things mentioned above. Give it a couple of days to
sink in your thoughts and then decide whether to leave those friends or to be
with them sinking in the depression pit, doing nothing for yourself or anybody
else. You should find new friends with new similar to your interests. People
who want to progress like you and to be successful. People full of life and
drive to be something more, improving some aspects of their lives all the time,
constantly making changes. These people will welcome you with open arms and
then you will be motivated for life, as you will progress together, giving each
other support every step of the way.
Ditch the poisonous people.
Make friends with those who think and are like
you.
