So next time something happens comfort your buddy and
don’t let him sink in your pain with you, as this could harm him/her. Try to go
through your emotions as deep as you can, and that will help you to overcome it
faster, as you admit your pain and let yourself sink into it. That will make
you stronger, and as long as you don’t resist your pain, it is a matter of time
for your brain to tell you – hey we survived this experience so we are off to
something new and good.
And believe me, if you let the pain fully to take over
for a day – so you can cry, scream, punch a pillow or something, the next day
you will be okay if not fully, then half the way :)
Tip 1
As I already said you have to sink in your pain. But
(there is always a but involved) be careful not to let yourself experience only
half of the emotions you have. What I mean by that is – live fully your pain,
not just a part of it, and the other day another part, and another and another
until the end of time… If you just focus on a little part of it, this could
bring you a constant depression based on this one experience. So always
remember to sink fully into your emotions so you can recover the next day (or
the next few days). As your mind won’t have nothing more from that pain to
focus on.
Tip 2
If you feel bad for someone you should stop right now!
“But wouldn’t that make me a cold SOB ?”. No it won’t because you still care
about them, but instead of focusing on the negative occurrence you should get
the spotlight over the solution. First think of one, second try to make the
“victim” focus on the solution too, and how good it will feel when it’s over
and everything is good. DO NOT never ever think of someone’s disease/suffering as
your own, or focus on it… instead think of how good that person will look and
feel when this is over. Get that picture of him being absolutely healthy and
safe in your brain, and you can’t go wrong.
